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It's a bit different for me....I agree about the importance of high-quality relationships, but I believe less is more because I don't actually have time for more that 4-5 GREATQUALITY friendships and I'm not interested in allowing random people into my life because I'm actually not very social...
Not everyone has the same needs. Don't assume that everything needs to maximize number of friends.
I used to be part of a larger crowd and it drove me insane and wasn't a positive experience even though many were good people! I only continued with it for a while because I was emotionally needy and insecure.
Intentionally keeping my friend number low allows me to be more selective socially and only be friends with people who are aligned with my values and have similar needs...
It's fine if you think that you need to have more friends, but for me deliberately being minimalist helps me feel less pressure to socialize when I would rather not and allows me to be more giving and supportive towards people I actually want in my life.
Having too many friends felt really oppressive to me and I actually felt less supported and less grateful for the friends I had, and I felt less genuine connection. Instead, I felt annoyed and overwhelmed.
There's nothing here!