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My name could go either way. More often than not, people who don't know me address me as "Sir" when they email me.
I only have people ask when they're in person and they can't decide 🤣
Comment by A-Salen at 31/01/2025 at 22:54 UTC
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My legal name doesn't go either way, but do have the same experience in person.
It says something about people saying they're defending women that they will assume all of their professional colleagues are men until proven otherwise.
Comment by SeaSnowAndSorrow at 31/01/2025 at 23:14 UTC
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I have a similar experience My legal name (from birth because my bio-mom was cool like that) is gender neutral.
In school, me and the person in front of me at roll call both had the same last name and gender-neutral first names, and it caused us to get each others' handouts a lot. It didn't help that, at the time, there was an actress and a football player who both had my first name. I've had people assume they were speaking to someone who looks *very* different over text vs. who they meet in person.
Pronouns are actually really useful when you have a neutral name like that and primarily communicate over text.
Comment by LockelyFox at 01/02/2025 at 06:43 UTC
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Mine is also neutral, but the way my mom decided to spell it is more often feminine, so I got "Miss" and "Ma'am" all the time until I put my pronouns in.