Comment by Prior-Lingonberry-70 on 08/10/2022 at 17:58 UTC

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Especially given the contempt here...

she seems to just not care about doing good work

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...and what sounds like viewing his spouse as a either a child or his subordinate.

but also feel like I haven’t done a good job setting expectations and consideration of family needs (paying expenses), doing what’s needed in the moment.

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Both contempt and a parent/child dynamic are utterly toxic to a partnership.

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Comment by highly_agreeable at 08/10/2022 at 18:03 UTC

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I agree that’s how it reads, but I don’t think we can/should assume too much from one Reddit post. Assuming OP is likely frustrated and word choice isn’t ideal. No sense in reading more into it and giving a diagnosis. A counselor is a good place for them to start though.

Comment by Dubs13151 at 08/10/2022 at 20:19 UTC

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It sounds like she behaves like a child. Puts OP in a tough spot. It's not fair to absolve her of her actions while criticizing OP.