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I still recommend that book, but I'll say this, also as a late bloomer. Reading that book created more pressure for me, because it (along with therapy) turned sex into like a big deal/large project. Something I have to read about, study about, ask myself questions about, "be curious" about, etc. It's as if I have to view sex as some kind of hobby or (unpaid) second job, like it's a big deal that requires a lot of reading, research, introspection, thought, etc. It'd be like, you have to spend hours a day researching meals from different cultures and experimenting with new recipies - that would turn food into a hobby or second job instead of something natural. I still recommend the book because I guess most people didn't have that experience.
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