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OP, the most worrying thing here isn't that your girlfriend is a 35 year-old virgin, it's that you actually believe her very strange excuses for never having had sex.
She was concentrating at school, she was too busy, she was working on her career, her sister got pregnant... none of these things are reasons for reaching 35 without ever having had sex.
Nobody needs a *reason* to have or not have sex, and it’s certainly not anyone in this thread’s job to dictate the validity of someone else’s motivations RE: waiting to have sex. The low-level psychoanalysis isn’t super productive and doesn’t answer OP’s question
Comment by StaticCaravan at 03/11/2022 at 02:12 UTC
19 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Your comment is even less helpful. Obviously to be 35 and a virgin, not waiting for marriage and not asexual is very, very unusual. It hasn’t just happened for no reason, there are clearly underlying issues there, even if they’re as simple as being asexual and not really realising it.
I never said that anyone has to give a reason for not having sex. But there will obviously BE a reason for not having sex, just as there’s a reason for having sex- eg we have sex because of sex drive, intimacy, attraction to partner etc. OP’s girlfriend doesn’t HAVE to find out the reasons why she doesn’t want sex. But OP doesn’t HAVE to be in a relationship with someone who can’t communicate to the extent he’s comfortable with.
Comment by TheMoralBitch at 03/11/2022 at 02:11 UTC
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It's not psychoanalysis, they're the reasons she gave OP a d OP reported here.