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Comment by Snoo-99110 at 02/11/2022 at 23:28 UTC
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Also, once you're both ready for it, the best position in my experience is her on top to get it in, that way she can control it and the weight of her body helps too. Do it after fingers and when she's really aroused and use lots of lube, introduce it with foreplay so its not a foreign object at that time. Then, once it's inside you can get on top so she doesn't have to worry about moving and rythm and stuff.
You can let her know about this too so it can maybe ease her worries a bit to know that it's absolutely fine to just lay and hug you, no porn star expectations.
Aaaand a book recommendation, "come as you are". I don't know how you'd tell her about it without telling her about this thread but it helped me a lot in adjusting the expectations I had around pleasure and PIV sex.
Comment by MsCicatrix at 03/11/2022 at 13:02 UTC
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Thank you for actually answering the question I'm asking instead of telling me we need to communicate about things that we have already communicated about! I really appreciate it!
OP, you realize you essentially asked “how do I help my late bloomer gf who is a virgin because she spent most of her life focusing in things other than relationships feel more comfortable having sex now that we’re both ready to?” yet wrote like nine paragraphs? If you didn’t want people to comment on all of these other aspects of your relationship then they shouldn’t have been in the post. It reads like you’re subconsciously worried about all this stuff but don’t know how to address it. Js, editing is a neglected buddy.