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Have you asked if she would ideally like to wait to have sex after marriage? I ask because if she’s 35 and has never had penetrative sex and is a devout catholic she might have a complicated relationship with the idea of sex outside of marriage. Maybe not completely against it but conflicted about it?
Anyways, I was a relatively late bloomer compared to everyone I knew (early twenties so not really, but at the time I felt like it) and the most important thing was me not feeling like the other person was judging me for it and letting things go at my pace while being proactive in suggesting things that moved in that direction. Honestly I was so anxious about penetration by that point and it felt like such a big deal that without someone else leading the way it may never have happened. Sad that I have to specify but I’m talking about leading only as long as there is enthusiastic consent and asking “would you like to try x”?.
I would start the progression with baby steps and evaluate how much further you think you can take things and she would be HAPPY (not okay) with it. “It’s fine if you’re not there but would you like to touch it?” “Would you like to kiss it?” “Would you like it if I put my finger inside you?” “Two fingers?”, etc
Keep it fun, lighthearted, funny and positive! :)
Comment by [deleted] at 02/11/2022 at 22:38 UTC
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