Comment by pidge_on on 01/07/2020 at 05:09 UTC

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View submission: Gaslighting red flags

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Something similar happened to me. It took months (and conversations with multiple people familiar to the situation) to realize that I wasn't being crazy and overemotional, HE was being abusive and gaslighting me. Really fucked me up emotionally. Hope you're doing better, friend.

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Comment by [deleted] at 01/07/2020 at 05:40 UTC

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Same thing happened to me. It’s the RVO in DARVO, reverse victim and offender. If they’re abusive, no they’re not, you’re abusive. If they’re cheating, they’ll accuse you of doing it. It’s an excellent way of keeping someone under your foot- convince them they’re the issue. It also doubles to take attention away from the abuse the true abuser is dealing out. I hope you’re doing better.