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View submission: Gaslighting red flags
In my experience when someone accusses another of gaslighting, they are themselves the gaslighter.
My ex use to also use this word ALOT. But she also would deliberately be vague only to then blame me, textbook gaslighting.
For instance, "hey are you come over after work?".. "ya"...
Then she ghosts me until the next morning. When I ask where she went or what happened she said she was just doing her thing why am I upset. So I said, well you said you were coming over after work. And she would say, well here I am, as if that was totally reasonable and rational. As if "after work" meant, the next day.
It's literally textbook gaslighting. But if I got upset about it, she would say I'm trying to gaslight her because she absolutely did exactly like she said, "she came over after work".
It's absolutely infuriating being around people like that.
Comment by throwaway17197 at 01/07/2020 at 03:37 UTC
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My ex would have a beer and then tell me he was still in love with me and ask me to stay the night n the next day if I tried to ask about what was going on he'd say "I don't want to get back together don't hold me to things I say drunk" or hed tell me my getting upset was my own doing and nothing he could do could improve or change it. I apologized without knowing why. He would be hot and cold on a dime. Dr Jekyl Mr hide. All I did was blame myself. So fucked.
Comment by [deleted] at 01/07/2020 at 04:16 UTC
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Most people in the world have never heard of gaslighting.