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Not really devil’s advocate tbh. Getting offended when someone (who does not know you) gets your pronouns wrong and immediately jumping to the conclusion it’s because your trans seems a little naive.
It’s how they act after you explain to them that matters more imo.
Comment by We_Are_Nerdish at 09/03/2025 at 18:24 UTC*
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That's pretty much how I feel about it.
I have friends who are trans, queer and everything between.. and I have made mistakes and flubs just like anyone else could and has. But never out of malice and it should be obvious from being someones friend that it's fine or not even worth addressing by either person unless it happens all the time where it becomes the norm.
But I have for sure met people that have been militant and hostile even before I could even say something wrong.
I don't blame them, I know it's not easy for many people that aren't where they want to be in life.
It just means I don't want to be near or around them because I dislike them for how they are, not who.
And a lot people simply don't interact enough with people that are trans, etc.
It's like me being in rural Japan as a tall white guy and vice verca being asian or black in a place where they don't see many to begin with... you're going to get looks and inteactions.. good and bad. Even if you lived there all your life.