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View submission: Do non-binary identities reenforce gender stereotypes?
I'm going to be blunt with you: you are me five years ago. I was Sure I was a woman. Except then I examined it and realized I wasn't. I had no strict parenting on gender so like. You can say that but it isn't true. You have confirmation bias. I was told I could be whatever but thought myself a woman for a long time.
But I'm just... Not? Being a gender makes me happy. Does being a woman cause you gender euphoria? Does it feel Right? But thanks for invalidating me for your weird own gender essentialism in the name of progressivism I guess???
Comment by polseriat at 14/01/2025 at 08:12 UTC
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Diagnosing someone as nonbinary because they don't have strong feelings about being what they already are is what's invalidating. The point I think a lot of cis people in this thread are making is that the most common feeling around their own gender is "eh, okay". The reason we want to know more is because feeling a sense of euphoria over being the gender you want doesn't feel natural to us, because we just don't care that deeply about it. I certainly don't go about every day thinking "wow my man life is so wonderful, I'm glad I'm a man", I'm just living my human life.
For the record, this doesn't mean we're all secretly nonbinary and need to be taught this, it just means it matters far more for nonbinary and trans people. I'm not attempting to attack you or the way you want to live, this is a thread you chose to join and you are free to leave if you feel invalidated. We're just trying to work out what makes the experience of gender so different for you.