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View submission: Do non-binary identities reenforce gender stereotypes?
As a not very girly girl who is very happy to be a girl, hmm... Maybe just a sense of rightness? Like the body I have and the social role I occupy fit to me.
I also do think most woman and men have some differences to their personalities that are gendered. This is partially because when I meet women and men that break that mold, it's always a bit noticeable and a surprise.
Not rlly arguing any side, just trying to add stuff
Comment by Every_Single_Bee at 12/01/2025 at 18:10 UTC
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Yeah! There are clearly certain normative elements, but if you were to try to use those to say “okay, then this this and this mean you’re a man” you’d catch a lot of women in that net. I’ve been friends with women who firmly reject “feminine” traits because they don’t feel in tune with or interested in any of them, who will still tell you in no uncertain terms that they ARE women. I see no reasonable framework under which to tell them “no, sorry, you have to be a man now”. The same works in reverse (starting from a two-gender model). So if there’s no sensible framework to tell someone that they have to be any certain gender (or in other words, if you can’t get from “performance of gender” to “actual gender” in any neat way even though “performance of gender” is the main tool by which most people will interact with and experience the gender of others), then for anyone whose internal sense of rightness doesn’t actually point them towards those categories, there is no inherent way to direct them and “something in between, beyond, or without” is simply where their gender identity appears to be fixed.