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View submission: Do non-binary identities reenforce gender stereotypes?
I would have seen it that way as well, which is actually why it took me a long time to figure out that I'm nonbinary. In the end, it was trans woman (as a general concept, I didn't know any at the time) and my mom who made me realize I definitely wasn't a woman. For my mom, her being a woman is a part of her internal identity, and a strong one! She has told me that if you put her brain in another body, it wouldn't change the fact that she was a woman.
It also occurs to me now, in fictions such as Ghost in the Shell where people get to choose different bodies, they're generally portrayed as always choosing the one aligning with what they were assigned, which always confused me. I figured you'd want to shake things up. But I guess it's natural to people who have a strong sense of gender.
Comment by SpaceNigiri at 12/01/2025 at 14:22 UTC
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It's curious, but I have always thought that if you put my brain into another body, I would not have a lot of problems identifying with the other gender too.
It's like, I truly don't care. I wouldn't mind dressing like the other gender (just for social convenience) and still do the same as always for the rest of stuff.
Comment by Cimorene_Kazul at 12/01/2025 at 15:18 UTC
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Would you say there’s a difference between accepting being female and strongly identifying as a woman?
Comment by ICApattern at 14/01/2025 at 00:17 UTC
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No human can know what it is like to be another, therefore you can only ever be you. You can never feel male or female. You can feel manly or womanly or fishy but all of those are constructs created by our brains and language and society. Gender is a social construct like money. It exists only when people acknowledge it. You by yourself on an island have none merely sex. Anything more that people construct is either society creating a new gender or a delusion. Truthfully I'm not sure they're different things, after all why is some paper worth a hundred dollars and some one dollar.
Comment by True-Professor-2169 at 12/01/2025 at 21:28 UTC
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��Of all the shapes we might have been, I say Hurray! For the shapes we’re in.” — children’s book author I do not want to get hate, although he is dead. I always say why can’t we just say : Happy to be, you and me.
Comment by kkjdroid at 12/01/2025 at 22:15 UTC
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She has told me that if you put her brain in another body, it wouldn't change the fact that she was a woman.
If only transphobes could realize this. Your mom phrased it very well.