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I've mentioned therapy to her a few times, as I am in therapy. She just says "yeah, I probably should", then nothing. to clarify, she does like anal, loves it, but as you may know, it's not always gonna feel good for whatever reason. In those times, she just wants me to power through it, to keep going, she can 'endure' it.
Comment by nlyddane at 14/01/2025 at 01:00 UTC
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I feel like this is an expression of something more sinister.
Comment by RoundNeedleworker708 at 14/01/2025 at 03:35 UTC
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This situation sucks, and I feel for you. But have to jump in and say you are operating from a dangerously naive perspective re. anal. **Anal should not hurt.** You are simply doing it wrong. I say this as someone who thought I'd never be able to do it, as it always hurt and I couldn't make it work. Turns out I just needed to find a guy who knew what he was doing. I love it now.
If you like anal and want to do this in the future, read up about it. Also, I think you know in your gut that this woman is not in good working order and I encourage you to make boundaries for yourself, as she seems to not be capable of making her own. You should not be ignoring her signs of pain, especially if she is not able to say "no" to anything. This seems unethical to me. Perhaps a goal for future personal boundaries might look like you only dating people who can communicate their needs. You deserve to be happy and healthy and this relationship does not seem to be that. Good luck!