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View submission: How often to visit elderly grandparents?
This is a perfect answer.
At age 39, I had 4 grandparents. Now at 45, I have one left. Plan something interactive while they still have good mental acuity. Take pictures.
I'm sure you could internet search "fun activities with elderly frail senior citizens" or something like that. Make the time you spend with them COUNT, so it's something that you look forward to. Monthly or every 6 weeks. Connect. Listen to their stories.
And live your life and don't feel guilty that you aren't there more. Maybe halfway between visits, plan a quick FaceTime, use the time to plan your next activity?
No matter what, when they are gone you will have regrets. Make memories now, less regret later. You are shaping your final memories of them over the next few years.
Comment by Lurk_Real_Close at 29/11/2024 at 02:50 UTC
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Depending on their health and mobility, a trip out may not always be possible, in bad weather for example. My uncle always used to be thrilled when I would visit for lunch in the retirement community, because he could reserve a special table and his friends would all know he had someone visiting. So even just visiting for a meal can be meaningful. I went about every 4-6 weeks.