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View submission: Do your boyfriends/husbands call themselves feminists?
tw: lack of consent
Literally there was one guy I slept with who was very public and open about his support for feminism and tackling rape culture and speaking up for women, and then when we got to the bedroom he choked me out the blue without asking / running it by me first. Fortunately I didn't mind it, but it was just bang out of order he didn't even ask me first after chatting about all that!
Meanwhile my partner now would never call himself a feminist, however I would argue he has been more feminist in his actions than any other man I have known. Getting consent with bedroom things for a start, but also being incredibly respectful and supportive about birth control, cleaning up round the house, cooking for me, treating my friends with kindness and respect, supporting my choices career wise etc.
So honestly... I sometimes like to just labels out the window and focus on actions.
There's nothing here!