Comment by Sweaty-Client-2765 on 06/02/2025 at 09:13 UTC

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View submission: My boyfriend says I’m privileged

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I'm glad you started therapy. It's always an interesting process...

I think from your original post and you're replies you know you deserve better. You are about to enter your 30:s and while men might see it as bad for women it is the best time.

I was in a similar position with my ex "you're so lucky" of course you got this job they need a diversity hire, family dynamics is privileged, you expect to go on a road trip or abroad once a year - how lucky you're so used to that (I paid for anything I wanted to do like I didn't expect him to maintain my lifestyle??) basically tore down my hard work and ambition and made it seem like my success was the luck of the dice.

Anyway I had massive anxiety issues which I never experienced before in my life, panic attacks and my self esteem was down the drain and my sparkle has sparked it's last spark 2 years previously. I was a ghost of my true self and I dint realize I had blunted my own teeth and worn down my edges to please him.

My therapist was lovely and after several months led me to make my own conclusions.

4 months out of that relationship I feel so much more like myself. I was lucky to have friends to fall back on.

I hope you rediscover your sparkle. It's a tragedy that some people try and snuff it out!

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