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View submission: My boyfriend says I’m privileged
Thank you very much! I just started therapy
Comment by grantbe at 06/02/2025 at 08:14 UTC
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Fantastic that you have started therapy! I recommend discussing your low self esteem with your therapist. That is the root of all your issues. Once you have uncovered where that is coming from and dealt with it, you will realise you are better than this man you've picked (who likely is filling some childhood relationship you haven't resolved). It will give you the confidence to stand on your own feet and know you are successful just being yourself. And most importantly, after you leave this man, it will ensure you don't end up picking another man who subconsciously you feel you need to plug that same gap that is making you feel not enough.
Your current BF is behaving in a toxic manner. You can and will find someone better than this guy. Good luck!
Comment by Sweaty-Client-2765 at 06/02/2025 at 09:13 UTC
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I'm glad you started therapy. It's always an interesting process...
I think from your original post and you're replies you know you deserve better. You are about to enter your 30:s and while men might see it as bad for women it is the best time.
I was in a similar position with my ex "you're so lucky" of course you got this job they need a diversity hire, family dynamics is privileged, you expect to go on a road trip or abroad once a year - how lucky you're so used to that (I paid for anything I wanted to do like I didn't expect him to maintain my lifestyle??) basically tore down my hard work and ambition and made it seem like my success was the luck of the dice.
Anyway I had massive anxiety issues which I never experienced before in my life, panic attacks and my self esteem was down the drain and my sparkle has sparked it's last spark 2 years previously. I was a ghost of my true self and I dint realize I had blunted my own teeth and worn down my edges to please him.
My therapist was lovely and after several months led me to make my own conclusions.
4 months out of that relationship I feel so much more like myself. I was lucky to have friends to fall back on.
I hope you rediscover your sparkle. It's a tragedy that some people try and snuff it out!
Comment by Love2Read0815 at 06/02/2025 at 11:19 UTC
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Seriously, if you loved yourself more you would not be putting up with this