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View submission: My boyfriend says I’m privileged
Its almost like he reminds you of how "privileged" you are because of jealousy or resentment on his part that he never got the same opportunities as you.
Having loving parents is nothing to be upset about. My parents didn't give me most of what you received but that doesn't mean I would (nor ever) throw shade your way. No two people walk the same paths in life, some get delt better cards than others...it is the way it is. You are right, you are lucky, and you're very self aware of your blessings. I fail to see the issue of having mutual love and respect between child and parents.
The flags I see here are that he has made it to 46yrs and was still single. Was he ever married or engaged? You also mentioned that with discussions with him you always seem to end up agreeing with him in the end....it kinda sounds like the guy does a lot of mental gynmastics and manipulation with you maybe the appeal to date you was so he could mould you into what he wants in a partner only you know the answer to that.
Im more spicy, right now because I cant sleep...but if he throws my privilege in my face or say stuff about "yeah you should spend time with them now" meaning they're expiring soon...if I were you, I would say so on my day off ____lets check out this nursing home since you're turning 50 soon and you should be put on a waitlist as it can take time to be accepted!
Dont ever allow anyone to make you feel bad about the opportunities you've had, your parents worked hard on giving you a better life than what they had because THEY ARE GOOD PARENTS! Tell the manchild to grow up and stfu with kissy face so he cant get mad 😘
Comment by Former_Reputation341 at 06/02/2025 at 07:08 UTC
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I understand if he mentioned being privileged once for example. However, he’s mentioned it multiple times, especially when discussing how badly his upbringing was. The sad part is all of the money he’s saved is paying for his mother to be taken care of in an elderly facility. She didn’t leave him the house nothings in his name and she has dementia. I’m not dealing with issues like that so maybe it hard to relate but I am supportive.
He’s never been married or engaged. He’s mentioned women that wanted to though but he didn’t because they cared more about obtaining the marriage rather than developing relationship. Which to me is a reasonable take.
Even though I was the one who initiated the relationship, I do think that he may have wanted to mold me. As he once said he would “train me.” Whether that be related to cooking or intimacy and not sure what else. But I found that odd and never had a partner say that before.
I do really appreciate your spicyness and Al of the advice you’ve given.