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View submission: My boyfriend says I’m privileged
Yea it’s just been very hard for me I’ve become attached to him. I feel he’s more intelligent than me and he makes better decisions. He’s always been loyal to me but there’s a controlling aspect of him too. It’s not terrible but could be so much better. Little things like this I’ve allowed it to degrade who I am.
Comment by biteoftheweek at 06/02/2025 at 05:58 UTC
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It is okay to move on. It is even okay to be single. Having more life experience is not the same thing as more intelligence. Perhaps he is the one making you insecure and feel stupid. Is this how you want to feel for the rest of your life? He is shaming you for having a loving family.
Comment by Long-Okra1415 at 06/02/2025 at 05:48 UTC
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Things could be so much better...but they will only get so much worse.
HE IS DEGRADING who you are, intentionally.
Give serious thought to whether he's someone you should keep in your life or not.
Comment by AmyDeHaWa at 06/02/2025 at 06:27 UTC
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Never let a man diminish you. That’s what he wants. This guy wants to take what makes you special and wonderful and beat it out of you. He’s a little man with small dick energy. Find a bigger man who appreciates exactly who you are and isn’t trying to change you. Get a man who loves you because of who you are and not what he can make you by taking things away.
Comment by PackOfWildCorndogs at 06/02/2025 at 07:48 UTC
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It won’t get better. It’ll only get worse. Thinking it will get better is magical thinking and won’t serve you very well.
He’s bitter because you didn’t have it as hard as he did. And apparently cannot stop thinking about it and making comments. That’s beyond childish. He’ll never be truly happy to see you succeed, and will always consider your successes in life less valid than those of people who didn’t have access to the type of support that you did. He will always resent you. Does that sound like the type of life you want?
You deserve someone who builds you up, cheers you on, and is sincerely happy for your accomplishments. That’s what a good “teammate” and partner does without effort. Hell, that’s what a good friend does — and he can’t even pretend or fake it. This man sounds like a shit partner who will only rain on your future parades, and honestly, he could have a negative effect on your professional growth. This dude’s resentment of you is a huge red flag.
Comment by Empty-River-7079 at 06/02/2025 at 08:03 UTC
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The controlling and degrading won’t get better and it’s working to keep you right where he wants you. Please don’t be complacent and stay. You still have the last bit of your youth in your 30s. Do not waste them on this sad person. Go get your spark back before it’s too late. There’s someone who’s a much better fit out there for you. Find someone who’s happy that you’ve had it easier than some people and would never want to see you suffer.
Comment by wet_soupp at 06/02/2025 at 08:39 UTC
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Sounds like the only decision you're bad at is choosing a boyfriend. He's not more intelligent either. Lucky you have a beautiful loving family who will help you through any kind of bad break up
Comment by thetenaciousterpgirl at 06/02/2025 at 09:07 UTC
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You are not attached but rather codependent. Please listen to all the great advice here and run, baby, run. Continue therapy and work on your self esteem too
Comment by brandnewspacemachine at 06/02/2025 at 09:11 UTC*
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He's with you because women his age don't want him
Comment by SealBachelor at 06/02/2025 at 13:08 UTC
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You feel he’s more intelligent than you because he wants you to feel that way. He is degrading you! Leave him
Comment by calthea at 06/02/2025 at 14:07 UTC
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He’s always been loyal to me
Was that supposed to be something positive about him? The absolute bare minimum?