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He starts yelling over me, I'm a disruption and it's his business and he needs to make a profit. And if I was going to continue being a disruption, I should just leave.
Holy horrifying. So his way to make a profit is to literally screw his employees. Holy horrifying and disgusting. If I knew it didn't work and ends up being a narcissistic misogynist Chernobyl in the end every time, I'd say that could make anyone a communist.
He kept firing "troublemakers"
I believe the Tepper 2000 explicitly says that if your supervisor says you keeping ethical tabs on them is troublemaking, that's a hard check on their abusive supervision scale. Like it's an explicit characteristic, that exact phrase.
talked shit about his wife who left him while I was working there (he refused to let her get a job because her parents were rich and so she left him), talked shit about his own mom.
Yep, they always blame their moms. Every. Time. For why they are narcissists. It's like, did your mom force you to do that illegal thing you just did? She did not. Grow an OUNCE of responsibility. Like yes, narcissistic parents create narcissists, but if they're going to show that much self-awareness they can only explain past behavior. They can't explain current behavior. They can only do their job to deprogram now that they proved they're aware they're narcissists and aware of the causes.
The narc tried to slip by not paying us for some extra time.
Yep. Paying is reciprocity for labor given and it's also a boundary. Two things narcissists hate. **Therefore, you meet someone who over and over has problems basically paying people for basic crap, and I mean basic crap, they're a narcissist.** They're exploitative especially in the grandiose instantiation.
Yelling us we should have known federal law and weren't going to be paid for it, intimidating me, wouldn't let me speak. At one point started to step towards me, his voice getting louder,
Yep, threatening fire, holding the relationship hostage, shutting down needed counsel. And holy disgusting. "You should've known I was committing a crime against you". No, dude. You're supposed to not commit crimes ESPECIALLY when you clearly show you know it's a crime.
Again laws are just "inconvenient boundaries" in the way of their profit to these guys. Another thing narcissists hate more than paying people are laws from a democratic society.
I'm so sorry. I was nodding my head "yep" at most of this. These guys are like clockwork.
I'm thinking of doing my next write up on why narcissists hate the boundary and reciprocity of paying people.
In the meantime, read as much of this sub as you can. Armor up against these guys. Research is that armor. Analytically sound, rigorous and thorough. Three things they will never be.
Comment by Novel-Inevitable-164 at 02/02/2024 at 21:06 UTC
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I can't tell you how much my neck and shoulders unclenched while I was reading the original post and your response. I noticed I'd been holding my breath while reading the original post. But as I read more of it, and then your response, I know I did the right thing. I feel like I'm breathing normally. Really thankful!