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View submission: A 97-Year-Old Philosopher Faces His Own Death (Herbert Fingarette, 1921-2018)
In cognitive behavioural therapy, there is an idea called the Acceptance Paradox: if you have a strong emotion and try to force yourself to stop having that motion, then it becomes stronger. For instance, with the fear of death, trying to convince yourself that you shouldn't be afraid of it won't help at all. You don't want to die, so your unconscious mind will resist any efforts to persuade yourself otherwise.
Instead, accepting your feelings as part of your nature will paradoxically make them weaker and easier to manage. It will direct you back to your healthy preference for the good things of life, to be balanced against your healthy preference against the bad things, and enable you to feel sorrow, be sensibly cautious, and to value the time that you have. The fear of death becomes a motivating force for wise behaviour rather than an anxiety-provoking burden.
This is similar in some ways to Stoicism (accepting death) but with more emphasis on accepting the feelings, and distinguishing between a preference for the good things in life vs. a perplexing demand that you MUST live or else... ???
Fingarette's efforts to argue his way out the fear of death are admirably intellectual but not a good path towards managing the feeling.
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