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I've found myself adapting more values of unattachment in my romantic relationship, which has ultimately helped us become closer. There are still things I struggle with. I get insecure like everyone else. While I was never a control freak or anything close, I became much less stressed the more I understood that you cannot fully love someone while in control of them or holding them to a lot of the expectations that we otherwise culturally normalize. Neither of us want kids, neither of us want to get married. I think in a perfect world, kids /could/ be nice, but I kids complicate things and my life is already complicated and overcommitted (to work) as it is
With friends, I have learned to expect less of them. Example, in my attempts to disconnect from as many online spaces and as frequently, I've found myself in a much easier position to not be bothered when people don't reply for a few days at a time. Close friends of mine, I might go a week or weeks without hearing from. At times I struggle with it as I use discord a lot for socializing and when no one else is online, it /can/ feel lonely but there's absolutely no frustration or irritation there.
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