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View submission: Advice on Spouse Decisions
Is she happy outside of work?
If she can find meaning through volunteering or hobbies or side projects (even if they are net neutral) then she should focus on that while keeping a job that pays the bills.
I learned a long time ago to separate work from life and happiness. I’ve had career ups and downs and sometimes they spill over into my happiness- but for now I’m working on a super boring product line for a fortune 100 that affords me plenty of down time and vacation to pursue my true interests which are not profitable at all.
Comment by charons-voyage at 08/10/2022 at 17:43 UTC
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This worked wonders for my wife. She started assistant coaching for a team at her school (Higher Ed) and loves it. It doesn’t pay well, and she still hates her day job, but her mood is 100% improved and she can grind out her day job as she knows she gets to coach in the evening. It’s a big time sink for the family, but I’m overall supportive. Exhausted, but supportive :-)
Comment by SignificanceLeast145 at 08/10/2022 at 17:52 UTC
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Outside of work, all her time goes into her business and raising the little one. Although I assumed this side business is her hobby/passion, I think not having the fruits, is weighing her down.
This is part of core problem is that she’s busy two roles, that she doesn’t get the time to pursue non monetary hobbies.
Def will encourage this! Thank you.