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View submission: ELI5: What is 'gaslighting' and some examples?
I think people need to understand the difference between gaslighting and different perceptions. It's not gaslighting when 2 people perceive an event differently. ex: If 2 people see a movie and one person says it's a lighthearted comedy and the other says the film is dark satire, neither person is gaslighting the other.
Also not gaslighting if the person who is doing the act believes what they are saying. ex.: a color blind person hands you a red apple and tells you it's green. If someone believes what they're saying, they aren't gaslighting you, they are just wrong.
Gaslighting implies the intent to deceive. If you're always thinking people are gaslighting you, it might be that you are attributing motives to other people that aren't really there. It is common that people have conflicting beliefs and viewpoints, but I think willful deception is much less common. (In most cases, lying a-holes aren't the norm.)
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