24 upvotes, 0 direct replies (showing 0)
View submission: [deleted by user]
I was in a very similar situation (I feel like this post could have been written about me, lol) a few years ago. I’m not asexual; I was just raised in a religious household and that had an impact on my life and temperament. I used to be very shy growing up and now even though I have a “normal” life, on the surface- I have several close friends, a good job, and don’t have any problems getting dates, I’ve struggled with getting into relationships and having sex due to my background.
I’m also a perfectionist and was afraid of sex being bad since I’m inexperienced. From my standpoint, it was extremely frustrating bc I did want to have sex, it just took a while for me to get comfortable. I know that can be hard for people to understand, but I was extremely attracted to the person I was dating, just needed some time to get comfortable. I know that I could’ve been better at communicating where I was at. It sounds like you’re doing a great job of meeting her where she’s at, I would just keep talking with her and not judging her. That was the biggest thing that would have helped me, the guy I was dating was pretty understanding, but he would occasionally make some judgmental comments (I don’t think he meant to; I think he was just having a hard time understanding where I was coming from).
There's nothing here!