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View submission: Gaslighting red flags
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Comment by PocketTurnip at 01/07/2020 at 04:45 UTC
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I'd say you've been toxic, but not an abuser. In my opinion, abuse is done on porpoise and knowingly, even if the person is unaware of the extent of what they're doing. You might have been manipulative, but manipulation often happens as an unhealthy self defense mechanism, as a desperate way to change a person's way of thinking or acting. I, for example, now realize how manipulative I've been towards my parents in the past, but it came as a response their own toxic behaviours towards me.
Comment by Ariadnepyanfar at 01/07/2020 at 06:43 UTC
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DBT was the thing that helped me most.