Comment by gir_loves_waffles on 01/07/2020 at 02:19 UTC

45 upvotes, 4 direct replies (showing 4)

*This**. I'm happily married now to an AMAZINGLY kind woman, but this described my ex wife to o a degree that shot me right back there. I can still remember being screamed at in the kitchen over freaking cookies, or the time she tried to hit me and I caught her hand so she couldn't and *I* was the asshole because it "really hurt, you asshole" when I caught her to stop her from trying to hit me.

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Comment by stopped_watch at 01/07/2020 at 04:39 UTC

10 upvotes, 1 direct replies

I feel you. I was always told how what she was doing could never be abusive because I was a man and only men could be abusers, abusers have to be abusive all the time and she only screamed and hit me every now and then, besides it was my fault for making her feel that way in the first place.

I hated how I was always wrong. No matter what the situation. Even when what I said was correct (and wow, wasn't that exhausting getting to that point), I was wrong for making her feel bad about being incorrect.

I just spoke to my amazing girlfriend to let her know how much I appreciate her. Things are much better now.

Comment by PocketTurnip at 01/07/2020 at 03:30 UTC

17 upvotes, 1 direct replies

My ex once caught me *by my neck* and *lifted me*, later he BLAMED ME for not letting go of an argument like ????

Comment by [deleted] at 01/07/2020 at 05:04 UTC*

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Comment by kharmatika at 01/07/2020 at 11:06 UTC

2 upvotes, 0 direct replies

Ahhhh that old chestnut. I remember my ex standing over m, screaming at me and shoving me back on the bed repeatedly so he could continue to scream at me, but when I kicked him in the chest to get him away from me, I was somehow the abuser. Cool beans my dude.

People who make your self defense into abuse are some real pieces of work