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I have been blessed with a fairly feminine face and voice.
There have been multiple people who have misgendered me (correctly gendered me? Idk, I wasn't presenting as female at the time) while I was at work doing retail.
There was one guy who came up to me and said something along the lines of "Hey dearie, how have you been?" That was, frankly, pretty creepy, but it was hilarious when I responded in a fairly masculine voice saying "fine" and got to watch him rethink everything in dread realizing he hit on a guy.
On the bright side, I noticed that when I would screw something up on accident, people had a lot more patience with me when they thought I was female.
Comment by Sigh000Duck at 09/03/2025 at 17:30 UTC
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I feel this. On the opposite side though. I am a trans guy but i still get misgendered alot. And a dude came up to me on the subway the other day and complimented my necklace i looked at him for a minute and said "me?" He paused and you could see him doing calculations in his head then he goes. "You're not a girl are you?" I shook my head. He immediately dropped his head said "never mind" and got off the train at the next stop. It killed me ill never forget it 😂
Comment by CrayonCobold at 09/03/2025 at 18:32 UTC
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I'm a very soft spoken guy so I get mistaken for a woman over the phone fairly often
It doesn't really bother me much but I know some people who have a more androgynous voice that get driven crazy by it and I bet it can be especially frustrating for people purposefully trying to present a certain way
Comment by SitInCorner_Yo2 at 09/03/2025 at 19:16 UTC
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My brother has something similar happen LOL
He was at a friends party and a girl across the room kept flirting with him, eventually she came over to talk and when she hear my brothers voice she just die inside, she’s lesbian and thought he’s a girl , and awkwardly move away from him LOL
He’s a straight guy with long hair and slim build, and he looks just like our mom, can’t blame her for mistaking him for a cool girl, their mutual friend said this has become a in joke amongst the girls friends.
Comment by Designer-Toe-3275 at 09/03/2025 at 18:59 UTC
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I wish I had a naturally fem voice. Instead i got slapped with the curse of bass
Comment by Spacetimeandcat at 09/03/2025 at 22:19 UTC
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The thought of a guy saying "dearie" is pretty funny. It's a word I associate with older ladies saying.
Comment by s00perguyporn at 09/03/2025 at 19:47 UTC
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Ugh. Kinda opposite problem, I'm a big guy with a voice that can and does get mistaken for a woman's voice. I can drop the register, but It isn't my natural speaking voice
Comment by ArtemisCovert at 10/03/2025 at 06:31 UTC
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:O Snafuu Cleanup gal!
Comment by Moonstoner at 10/03/2025 at 11:24 UTC
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As a guy, I noticed that people are more patient or understanding with me if they view me as very stupid or threatening.