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View submission: Am I losing my mind??
Hey my friend, woman here. If you aren't participating in the vitriol towards or mistreatment of women, you have nothing to feel guilty for. I'm autistic and struggle with a very strong sense of justice so when I feel a group has been wronged I rage even if I can't do anything about it. I feel your frustration and sadness. It sucks to feel helpless in a struggle that has been going on for millennia.
But just know that as long as you are doing the best you can without harming yourself, you're absolutely doing good enough. You are not responsible for the actions of men who hate women or just see us as less. You are not responsible for the loneliness epidemic. You are only responsible for you and your actions. And I suspect your actions are pretty damn good ones based on the care that you've expressed here.
Something that may help you feel a little better about it all is that the loneliness epidemic is not limited to men and has many causes completely independent of the actions some men take. It's definitely not a simple matter of some men being so toxic they're causing isolation for all men. This article[1] breaks it down pretty well and explains how the epidemic is affecting people and who it is affecting. Yes, there are additional gender issues outside of the loneliness epidemic that are affecting dating specifically, but your loneliness is valid and shared by many other people including women. You're not alone in this.
A lot of the guys on this sub had great advice on avoiding the toxic discourse and I could not agree more. A lot of shitty dudes try and claim it's not an issue for women and that it's the fault of women and then women lash back out with criticisms of certain behaviors and views that are commonly perpetuated by toxic men without thinking about the people caught in the cross hairs. It sucks and I'm sorry it's affecting you. You don't deserve that and you don't have to keep consuming the anger and vitriol.
You're allowed to protect your peace.
There's nothing here!