Comment by aeorimithros on 30/12/2024 at 09:43 UTC*

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View submission: Am I losing my mind??

The healthiest place to process this is in therapy as an outside perspective is vital since many of the these things cause cognitive dissonance

• *Books by Men Addressing Toxic Masculinity and Patriarchy**

• "The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love" by bell hooks

(Not written by a man but directly addresses men)

This seminal work offers a compassionate critique of toxic masculinity, showing men how to embrace love and vulnerability..

• "Boys Adrift" by Leonard Sax

Examines the societal and psychological pressures on boys, exploring how modern culture stifles their emotional and intellectual development.

• "King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine" by Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette

A psychological exploration of healthy masculinity through archetypes, offering a framework for men to find purpose and balance.

• "Of Boys and Men: Why the Modern Male Is Struggling, Why It Matters, and What to Do About It" by Richard V. Reeves

Focuses on the challenges men and boys face today, while promoting a modern vision of masculinity that is fair and functional.

• "Daring Greatly" by Brené Brown (Though not a man, her work resonates deeply with men about vulnerability)

Encourages men to embrace vulnerability as a strength rather than a weakness.

• *Books on Empathy and Emotional Intelligence for Men**

• "I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression" by Terrence Real

Explores how men’s emotional repression leads to depression and offers strategies to foster emotional health.

• "Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys" by Dan Kindlon and Michael Thompson

Discusses the cultural pressures boys face and how parents and society can nurture emotional intelligence in boys.

• "Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers" by Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté

Explores how societal norms impact boys’ emotional development and how adults can guide them away from toxic masculinity.

• *Books Encouraging Social Change and Accountability**

• "The Mask of Masculinity: How Men Can Embrace Vulnerability, Create Strong Relationships, and Live Their Fullest Lives" by Lewis Howes

Helps men remove the "masks" of traditional masculinity to live more fulfilled lives.

• "Be a Man: The Ultimate Guide to Becoming a Better Man" by Chris Hemmings

A candid look at how men are shaped by toxic masculinity and practical advice on rejecting harmful norms.

• "He: Understanding Masculine Psychology" by Robert A. Johnson

A Jungian perspective on masculinity that explores how men can achieve psychological wholeness.

• "White Ribbon Campaign: Engaging Men and Boys to End Violence Against Women" by Michael Kaufman

Focuses on men’s roles in challenging and dismantling the systems of violence against women.

• *Memoirs and Reflections**

• "What We Talk About When We Talk About Men" by Robert Jensen

Reflects on how patriarchy harms men and how they can join efforts to create equality and justice.

• "The Descent of Man" by Grayson Perry

A thought-provoking and humorous critique of traditional masculinity by a celebrated artist and social commentator.

• "Between the World and Me" by Ta-Nehisi Coates (Relevant for understanding Black masculinity in a racialized context)

A letter from father to son about identity, race, and what it means to be a man in America.

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Comment by fartass1234 at 30/12/2024 at 12:53 UTC

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not sure about that Baldoni work now lol

Comment by robust-small-cactus at 30/12/2024 at 18:55 UTC

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Liz Plank's For the Love of Men definitely deserves a spot in this list!