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View submission: Trans Women, Male Privilege, and the Intersectionality of Patriarchal Oppression
As a cis woman, I’ve never experienced trans gender dysphoria, but I can say I have experienced some form of gender dysphoria due to puberty, and it is distressing. I actually thought I was trans for a little while as a teenager and wore a makeshift binder because of those feelings.
After getting older and reflecting some more, I realised I wasn’t trans. I didn’t hate having breasts. I hated going from being a carefree child one day to treated like a sexual object by strangers, male classmates and family members the next. My dad started treating me different. My uncle would hug me really tight and then loudly comment on how large my breasts had grown. One of my friends was jealous, so she started a rumour that I stuffed my bra. I was only 9. I lost my childhood overnight and It was traumatic.
Being trans isn’t a choice, but you get to transition at your own pace when you’re ready. I didn’t get a choice.
Comment by Iron_willed_fuck-up at 30/01/2025 at 17:07 UTC*
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I sympathize with what you describe but I would like to point out by definition that gender dysphoria is related to being trans. Correct me if I’m wrong but what you describe seems to be more akin to body dysmorphia? What you describe doesn’t quite hit with how I’d describe gender dysphoria as a trans woman.
“Being trans isn’t a choice, but you get to transition at your own pace when you’re ready.”
This I will tell you is categorically untrue. Most trans people do not get to transition either at all, when they’d like, or at the pace they’d like due the various financial/insurance, medical, societal, and legal barriers currently in place. Most insurances covering gender affirming care to some extent is a VERY recent thing.
Comment by L00king4answer at 30/01/2025 at 18:21 UTC
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Being trans isn’t a choice, but you get to transition at your own pace when you’re ready. I didn’t get a choice.
Only to undo the (to some extend irreversible) damage that has already been done to our bodies when we went through our first puberty ourselves? Or do you think all trans people just magically skip puberty in our teenage years?
Comment by stevepls at 30/01/2025 at 19:59 UTC
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1. puberty is not a neutral process for anyone. puberty for trans women can be conceived of as a from of non-consensual transition. much like yours. which also happens against your will and timeline.
2. it is absolutely laughable to say that trans women get to transition at their own pace holy shit.