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View submission: Trans Women, Male Privilege, and the Intersectionality of Patriarchal Oppression
I'm a trans woman myself. Before transitioning, I spent eight years of my life berating, hating, and harming myself at all possible capacities. I only transitioned when my self-harm was out of control, I was not eating, and I realized a suicide was imminent. I was, by all accounts, the most miserable person everyone in my circle knew.
Even though today I pass fairly well as cis and don't struggle nearly as much, I would also give everything I could to just be cis and not have to deal with the shit trans women have to deal with.
Despite all of this, I know and understand that although my period as a man was miserable, I still benefited to an extent from being seen as a man. Whether this was reflected in the work opportunities I got, how I was treated by others, or any other metric, is another subject of discussion.
I get what you mean. I suffered tremendously as a male, and if I had to detransition, I would kill myself. Plain and simple. However, I also know certain aspects about life were easier when I was able to pass as a male.
Comment by FabulouSnow at 30/01/2025 at 01:09 UTC
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Certain aspects of life are also easier if you pass as female as well.
I gained nothing in my life from pre-transition, anything I wanted to do I wasn't allowed because "i was a boy". It was a literally utterly worthless period of my life. I would've been so much further ahead in life if I had been a cis woman. I basically had to start life at -5 instead of 0.