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View submission: Trans Women, Male Privilege, and the Intersectionality of Patriarchal Oppression
remaining closeted offers limited protections, but isn't a privilege. you are what you are even if you're not out, you're still subject to messages that you internalize as *about you*, even if you aren't visible to others. i was still a target of homophobia even if i wasn't out - like that's *why* i was closeted. it's also not just because of your own internal distress, but bc you can't necessarily control getting clocked.
so no, it's not what you mean. mostly because while on the surface a woman who's heterosexually married in her 50s who's closeted, vs a straight woman might look similar in terms of external social power, they still have different relationships to/experiences of homophobia. i think the same holds true for trans women and cis men's relationship to misogyny.
Comment by SuperPrussia at 29/01/2025 at 23:28 UTC
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I referred mostly to the external privilege from being cis or straight passing. I understand the heavy toll one must bear to hide one's sexuality or gender identity. However, unless something is done to externalize it, most people will not see it, and thus treat you as cis/straight. Like I said, the benefit of being seen as cis/straight, but at a steep cost.