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I grew up with a parent who constantly disparaged my looks and my weight as "jokes". And if I got upset about it? I needed to "lighten up" and "learn how to take a joke". It devastated me and made me feel worthless. I still struggle with these feelings of inadequacy today, decades later. Therapy has helped but the feeling that I'll never be good enough lingers on.
Your husband DID mean something by it. Jokes are supposed to be funny, not insulting. That's just bullying. If your husband continues to downplay it and can't see why he is in the wrong here, then you need to take steps protect your kid. My dad didn't participate in these kinds of remarks and "jokes", but he did nothing to prevent them or protect me either, and honestly, that hurts worse.
My first bully was my mom. Don't let your daughter's first bully be her father.
There's nothing here!