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You're not overthinking it, him going "why do you nip-pick at everything I say, I didn’t mean anything by it, it was a joke" is a big red flag, straight up things that you hear from abusers, same with him calling you overdramatic.
Plus the "it's just a joke" bs doesn't even tend to hold up in their own logic, i.e. try to "joke" about His physical appearance and such instead, and chances are he will suddenly get upset about it.
Comment by radioactivebaby at 09/01/2025 at 15:26 UTC
40 upvotes, 0 direct replies
His response is classic DARVO: Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender.