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Comment by katgyrl at 09/01/2025 at 14:12 UTC
118 upvotes, 1 direct replies
he's sociopathically wrong about that, good god. you're NOR.
Comment by AssassiNerd at 09/01/2025 at 14:51 UTC
84 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Good god. Please read this book.
Why does he do that by Lundy Bancroft, PDF
Comment by Master-Resident7775 at 09/01/2025 at 14:32 UTC
29 upvotes, 0 direct replies
You are worth a partner that values your feelings and actually there are no rules to make you stay with someone
Comment by MakeWar90 at 09/01/2025 at 14:29 UTC
64 upvotes, 0 direct replies
He's literally telling you he doesn't care about you or your feelings. You and your child deserve so much better.
If he's so confident he did nothing wrong then tell him to make a post on aita and you will make one on aio. Let the court of public opinion decide. If he refuses just make an aita post on his behalf then send it to him (there's no way he comes out nta)
Comment by birdsandbones at 09/01/2025 at 14:32 UTC
24 upvotes, 0 direct replies
He gets to be wrong about that then, not you. You are the arbiter of your own emotions’ legitimacy.
Comment by idontknowwhybutido2 at 09/01/2025 at 15:02 UTC
12 upvotes, 0 direct replies
This is worse to me. People can make jokes in poor taste, have dark humor, or be really sarcastic, but when presented with your feelings about the "joke" being rude and unfunny and hurtful (because it objectively is) he got defensive and dug his heels in to "be right" instead of caring at all about your feelings or opinions and apologizing. Everybody makes mistakes, it's how you handle it when confronted that matters.
Comment by ChemistryIll2682 at 09/01/2025 at 16:54 UTC
6 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Being an insensitive jackass is not the flex he thinks
Comment by littletree0 at 09/01/2025 at 18:02 UTC
6 upvotes, 0 direct replies
My dad gets like this. He will never ever say that you are right and he was wrong, and he may also conveniently "forget" he said something so hateful later on and use that as an excuse. "Well, I don't remember it happening, so clearly you're making it up and I don't have to apologize for you hurting your own feelings.". I know you may not have encountered this before, but trying to justify yourself this way is just not worth it. He won't change his mind without some outside force (whether that be a therapist, family member, someone in your social circle) exerting that pressure. In my experience.
Comment by mangababe at 09/01/2025 at 17:22 UTC
4 upvotes, 0 direct replies
This should be a deal breaker for you.
Comment by storagerock at 09/01/2025 at 18:27 UTC
3 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Feelings are ALWAYS valid.
In this case, your feelings are both valid AND logical.
Extremely logical actually; this is like textbook negging.