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View submission: Do non-binary identities reenforce gender stereotypes?
hence the reason my response was framed as a question, and included phrase "if so." i highly doubt you're ignorant of the fact that many people, including the person you're responding to, believe that to be transgender is a status based on adornment and outward expression, rather than internal identity. that's an erroneous and dangerous perspective, and i don't feel i need to apologize for pushing back against it whenever possible.
Comment by TheThunderTrain at 14/01/2025 at 22:56 UTC
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I understand that trans people believe their internal identity does not fit their external one. But whenever you ask them to explain, it always boils down to external gender stereotypes. Just feeling something is not an explanation. There are reasons for feelings. The reality is some feelings are bullshit and are based on bullshit. This is why it's important to examine you're feelings and get to the bottom of why you feel the way you do.
Comment by hulaw2007 at 15/01/2025 at 12:39 UTC
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I don't think the person was necessarily saying that gender doesn't also have to do with one's inner identities and sense of self. I think a lot of people are just commenting on the obvious, which is that gender roles themselves ARE a social construct. For example, I am a lesbian and I used to wear dresses, especially in front of my parents. Honestly, I wore a nice wedding gown (white dress) when i married my wife almost 11 years ago. Interesting side story, my parents came to the wedding and my dad of all people cried!
At some point prior to the wedding, I started to find myself and decided women's clothes are awful, back to the lack of pockets issue, and, for me, design and fit issues. Like, I LOVE basketball shorts and their wonderfully deep pockets. I love shorts and pants with zippers and a plethora of pockets. I also know a lot of women, though, who are frustrated with the mysterious lack of pockets in traditional women's clothing, gay and straight. My shoe choice is men's running shoes size 10. My point is that although I am a lesbian, I love being am woman. I just do. I don't know but I imagine that is similar for trans people. They just do, they just internally feel that difference. That's what I think pulls them in whatever direction they go to. Sorry if I'm wrong. It's just a personal observation.
Comment by [deleted] at 14/01/2025 at 21:24 UTC
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