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i would argue that cisgender people often proclaim they feel this way explicitly because they've never had to interrogate their comfort with themselves the way trans people have. i highly doubt, if you woke up in a man's body tomorrow morning, that you would feel no different about it than you do about your current form.
Comment by poopsinpies at 15/01/2025 at 05:26 UTC*
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But notice how you have to frame this in a way that's simply not possible: "if you woke up in a man's body tomorrow" would never happen.
This is like saying someone freaking out over waking up one morning completely blind is the same as someone who's been blind since birth: the former has had X number of years with sight and is now in unfamiliar territory, and the latter does not know anything else.
Anyone would freak out by waking up in a different body: shorter versus taller, deaf versus hearing, in a wheelchair versus able to get up and run a marathon.
But if that body has been there this whole time, in what way would anyone internalize a sense of "wrongness" other than by comparing himself to others and thinking "I wish I was that"? And then how does that mean his body is wrong instead of him being jealous, e.g. "I wish I was taller" or "I wish I had blue eyes"?
How can someone be uncomfortable with something that has been true his or her entire life, and when it's simply not possible to actually know what it is to feel anything else?
Comment by Famous-Ad-9467 at 15/01/2025 at 09:49 UTC
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If I woke up in a man's body tomorrow, I'd be just as shocked if I woke up in a body missing a limb. However, if I was born without legs or born as a man, I would have no issue with that.
As a woman with a deep voice, I don't go into any sort of crisis when I'm confused as a man. I don't have a breakdown because I wear typically male clothes.
There is nothing inside me that tells me I'm definitely not a man.