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View submission: Do non-binary identities reenforce gender stereotypes?
If anything comes close I suppose it’d just be to say that I’m personally declining the categorization because I don’t see personal value in it, but I’m highly supportive of anyone who does accept it and molds it any way they choose.
Plenty of people decline gender categories without viewing themselves as non binary, in fact a lot of them are on this post. Most people just define themselves as a man or a woman based on biology, and express themselves however they want to. There's no need to have a gender that feels "right," the idea that you even would innately feel right with a gender is a new concept that many people do not subscribe to.
Comment by Every_Single_Bee at 14/01/2025 at 18:47 UTC*
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That’s fine for the most part, I don’t take issue with that as long as they keep that assessment personal. *You* say there’s no need to have a gender that feels right, however, and that’s not something you can prove or substantiate. Like I said, if you don’t feel it you probably can’t understand it unless you listen to the firsthand accounts of those who feel differently, and if you aren’t willing to do that then of course you’d come to that conclusion, but you’re only doing so by throwing out a bulk of the available evidence, and that just feels like confirmation bias. For me, it helps my life and feels more accurate based on my understanding of gender vs sex; gender as a social construct seems, as far as I can tell, to be pretty definitively proven to be only barely connected to biology, and the way I’ve concluded is best for me (in both theory and practice) is to decline gender categories by identifying as nonbinary. I don’t then propose to make anyone else adhere to my standards or to prescribe anyone else’s gender for them, and I’m deeply saddened by anyone who feels genuinely upset by my choice, or the existence of people like me who believe that this is a decision someone can make. Even if someone disagrees with that framework, it inherently and sincerely fits my lived experience and my understanding of both psychology and history, and that’s all there is to it to me. The fact that other people reach different conclusions is good, in my mind, but it’s not in and of itself an argument against anything I’ve said. As per my explanation, I assume that those people who reject gender categories but don’t identify as nonbinary simply aren’t nonbinary, whereas I am, and more power to them!