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View submission: Do non-binary identities reenforce gender stereotypes?
Then make a second account and go a week as something else.
Comment by polseriat at 14/01/2025 at 15:14 UTC
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I mean, that would be an interesting idea for sure, I might consider it if you think it would enhance my understanding. However, my assumption is that would essentially just feel like roleplaying as a female character, not actually changing anything about me. I don't mean to offend, and I know that that's not the feeling you expect because that's not what you experienced.
You seem to be coming at this from a viewpoint that all the cis people you're replying to are actually nonbinary in some way, which I can understand because that's the life you lived. But you aren't being especially understanding of the fact that others genuinely just don't care that much about their gender and don't require a feeling of a certain gender (or lack thereof) to get by.
Comment by monkabee at 15/01/2025 at 13:23 UTC
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I am frequently mistaken for a different gender on here mostly due to the very gendered nature of some of the subs I participate in and it's never bothered me once or made me correct the person, it really does not matter to me what gender others see me as and I agree very much that my gender is, internally for me, simply one of a list of traits I happen to have like hair color and eye color.
As such this thread has been a really interesting read, I have had similar questions as the OP when people in my personal life have declared themselves NB or even trans and the reasons all feel, to me, like very kind of superficial gender stereotypes rather than anything that would deeply move me to change my gender. (Important note here that these are internal musings only - I would NEVER say that in response, I am supportive and frankly my opinion about anyone else's choices does not matter, you tell me what you want to be called and I call you that, it's very simple in that respect.) I've never considered that nb/trans folks probably feel gender in a much different and stronger way than I ever have, whether that's because I'm cis or because I just don't care enough about it to even wonder, and that in and of itself is a pretty eye-opening perspective.