Comment by ThrowMeAwayLikeGarbo on 13/01/2025 at 18:57 UTC

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View submission: Do non-binary identities reenforce gender stereotypes?

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As a nonbinary person, it feels like my internal sense of self is the Kiki/Bouba effect overlayed like I'm looking at red/blue 3D effects without the glasses on.

There's a memory I have from back in high school, before I learned that non-binary was a thing, where the class was split up, guys on the right side and girls on the left. I hesitated in the middle, I felt frozen for a minute. Logically, I knew which side I should be standing on. It was a no-brainer. So why did I freeze? I couldn't explain it at the time and that question ate at me every time something similar happened.

It was only after I had access to biopsych research journals and really dove into the nitty gritty of neurochemistry/neuroanatomy that I reconciled with how I'd always felt. I had to call a spade a spade.

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Comment by b0x3r_ at 13/01/2025 at 20:49 UTC

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I appreciate the comment but I’ll be completely honest: I’m not closer to understanding what you mean than before your comment. I’m a man, but I don’t have some internal sense of gender. I just am what I am. Never once in my life have I had a *feeling* of “being a man”. In fact, I don’t even know what that would mean. What do you imagine that feels like?

Now, I do understand what “being a man” means in the biological or social context, but that’s not what we are talking about here.