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View submission: Do non-binary identities reenforce gender stereotypes?
See, I have a problem with your views but not because of WHO you are and what you DO with your life, I am completely chill with all of that, I honestly do not hate you in any way shape or form, I wish you all the happiness in life. I am just a radical egalitarian and a gender abolitionist. For me the problem is that I see this insistence of ''difference'' between men and women as furthering sexism and destroying the language.
To me sex is just a reproductive function, it is a biological fact, but it doesn't mean anything else about what kind of person you are. Ones sex is WHAT they are, not WHO they are, same as we are human and not an elf. I wish we would just not have gendered pronouns all together, like some languages do. But if we HAVE to have gendered pronouns, the most logical and utility based function of the language, in my opinion, would be to point out the persons biological sex, so that people at the very least know who they can screw if they want to start a family, and which dimorphic organs they have, for the doctor to check. For all other intents an purposes to me ones gender is completely useless, irrelevant and even detrimental, it doesn't mean anything, gender of cis people included.
But you identify as a woman regardless of the reproductive function, which to me sounds as absurd as ''I identify as a dancer, but I don't dance.'' And also begs the question of what the hell are you identifying as? Which never has any coherent answer. And you are saying it right here:
I, truly, as a trans person cannot tangibly explain why I, or anyone else, is trans. It is through pure self exploration that we’ve found how we’re happiest & what often hurts us.
But I think I KNOW the answer, and that is sexism, pure and simple, sort of DIVINE sexism if you will. Men and women are *just* ''different'' they just are, ''spiritually'', ''magically'' you have to just ''feel'' it with your third eye, it is mysterious and unquantifiable, unexplainable. And to me to feel so deeply that men and women are ''other'' without any logic or rationality behind it, is juts sexism incarnate.
In my mind men and women are the exact same thing, just have a different reproductive function. Traits that are present in men and never in women and vice verse just don't exist.
Comment by ReneeBear at 13/01/2025 at 17:48 UTC
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Modern medicine has determined that the best treatment for gender dysphoria is medical transition and social transition.
I mean this with all due to respect, if you find my existence as more sexist, more *threatening* then the patriarchal structures that have been in place for centuries, the institutionalization of victim blaming, and the culture of men treating women like property, then you are sorely mistaken.
Again; I cannot explain my existence to you. I only know how I am happiest. But beyond that, you are trying to explain me away with science and semantics. I don’t care what your opinion on what pronouns should be.
You are sitting here making the same argument homophobes make against queer people. “I don’t care what you do with your life, I just don’t want my children to be that way! And I actually think you’re reinforcing harmful gender norms. And also ideally I don’t think you should be the way you are, but it’s okay because I’m not actually against you being happy. =)”
The catch to all this, if you cared about gender abolition more than you cared about trans people as a scapegoat then you’d understand that trying to define pronouns & gender roles & gender identity for people; wherever you wanna draw that line in the sand, is ultimately counterproductive to people being freed by gender norms. The solution is not to subjugate and force further, it is to free. That’s why it’s abolition.