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View submission: R/Askmen discusses getting swarmed by women
This stupid sub (Ask Men) comes up for me sometimes and it seems to be full of men asking other men questions that they should be asking women.
Fellas, how can I make my wife attracted to me again?
Fellas, what do women mean when they say they want me to improve myself?
Fellas, why do women think I don't listen to them when I literally don't listen to them and instead come ask yall about them?
Comment by SJReaver at 27/01/2025 at 22:20 UTC
148 upvotes, 5 direct replies
Part of the issue is that askwomen type subs typically limit questions like that because otherwise they get flooded with horny, lonely, and angry dudes.
Comment by Renegade_August at 27/01/2025 at 22:12 UTC
124 upvotes, 2 direct replies
Are you saying that men should go on r/askwomenadvice to ask women for advice?
I will not have genders asking each other for advice, I won’t have it. It’s too much!
Comment by Mr_sex_haver at 28/01/2025 at 00:34 UTC*
38 upvotes, 1 direct replies
The thing is they also downvote the shit out of men who give them good advice because a lot of dudes on there just want their easy/lazy current ways of thinking or behaving reaffirmed because self reflection is scary I guess.
either that or people who don't seem to understand that no gender is a monolith and there is extreme variance between peoples thought patterns, likes, behaviours etc. Because man, woman, nonbinary and anything else we are all just individuals and while gender roles and social pressure may influence us we are not wholey shaped by them.
Comment by [deleted] at 28/01/2025 at 03:37 UTC
9 upvotes, 1 direct replies
it seems to be full of men asking other men questions that they should be asking women.
That's true for most of the "askX" subs tbh. A lot of people don't ask questions on there to genuinely find out what people think, they ask loaded questions to get validation of opinions they already have. That's why they go to the sub where most of the users share their opinions. It's a really weird thing to do tbh and it makes me think a lot of it is just people not having genuine friendships IRL that they can go to for social affirmation.
Comment by dr_badunkachud at 27/01/2025 at 22:13 UTC
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to me it’s a sub geared towards an interest in men answering questions. and that interest manifests in a few different forms. and because of that, there’s i think a particular focus on shitty men saying shitty things. and being shitty men, they think that the problem must be everyone else and not them being shitty. and while i don’t think the sub itself is bad, but those kind of guys tend to congregate there by nature.
the other thing too is that i think if you’re a shitty guy asking a sub for women for advice about women isn’t going to be a particularly constructive experience, which is another reason why those guys do what they do.
Comment by GreenDuckGamer at 27/01/2025 at 21:55 UTC
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Haha I'm glad I'm not the only one that noticed that.
Comment by CatterMater at 27/01/2025 at 22:10 UTC
34 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Talk to a *woman*??
Comment by justavivian at 27/01/2025 at 22:12 UTC
44 upvotes, 2 direct replies
It used to be a well regarded sub but sometime during quarantine it got swarmed by MRAs and incels.It also took a turn towards homophobia/transphobia(it literally is red on shinigamy eyes).Also if you put the sub on reddit stats user overlap some of the most commons ones are redditafterdark,mensrights,bigdickproblems,seduction,purplepilldebate and deadbedrooms
Comment by ZeldenGM at 28/01/2025 at 07:58 UTC
8 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Oh great I just read a reply by a women. What a huge waste of 10 seconds.
/s
Comment by Enticing_Venom at 28/01/2025 at 15:39 UTC
4 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Yeah both subs have a problem with misogyny. They don't like hearing it either because after I commented that here they perma banned me lol.
Having men condescendingly explain the ways women are manipulative, unreliable and yet also conquests is not helping give men advice. It's just creating resentment and division.
Comment by mangababe at 28/01/2025 at 10:26 UTC
5 upvotes, 1 direct replies
And then they get mad women answer.
It's just a repeat of the dumbass, predatory logic of "hunters don't ask deer how to get better at hunting" on the scale of an entire sub.
Comment by masterjon_3 at 28/01/2025 at 04:14 UTC
4 upvotes, 1 direct replies
I also see women asking men questions, which I thought was the original purpose.
Comment by Sea_Lingonberry_4720 at 27/01/2025 at 22:03 UTC
14 upvotes, 1 direct replies
There are some times where one’s own morality and self perception gets in the way and that goes for both genders. You wouldn’t believe the amount of times I’ve seen guys say that they don’t think fat people are ugly, they’re just not attracted to their “lack of discipline”. I’d trust a fat woman more than a man to tell me why men are largely not attracted to fat people, and I’m a man myself.
Comment by mygawd at 28/01/2025 at 13:28 UTC
3 upvotes, 1 direct replies
And the responses will be things like "you can't, women are shallow bitches." Which is probably what they wanted to hear anyways
Comment by Belfura at 28/01/2025 at 02:07 UTC
5 upvotes, 0 direct replies
I recently saw a guy who asked a question specifically because he felt that there’s no point in asking a woman because he didn’t want to deal with hostility
Comment by Inkshooter at 28/01/2025 at 03:09 UTC
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The problem is that 90% of these kinds of questions are banned on /r/askwomen.
Honestly, both subs should be put out of their misery.