https://www.reddit.com/r/SubredditDrama/comments/1ibkyyi/raskmen_discusses_getting_swarmed_by_women/
created by Enticing_Venom on 27/01/2025 at 21:42 UTC*
226 upvotes, 47 top-level comments (showing 25)
AskMenAdvice is a sub to ask men questions. Unlike it's sister sub, it does not have any rules against women answering. One user asks if anyone else has noticed the swarm of women [1] coming into the sub.
You are literally doing what the guy you responded to is saying...
Assumptions are for the ignorant. Ignorance isn't worth my time.
Worth enough of your time to reply, apparently
Reply: Well I do believe in abstaining from pornography (i'm male)
Why do you have a post on your account for a pornID sub?
Woman really need to learn to speak when spoken to. Isn't their a sub for women advice?
Comment by deliciouscrab at 27/01/2025 at 21:45 UTC
537 upvotes, 4 direct replies
This is cheating.
Comment by gentlybeepingheart at 27/01/2025 at 22:07 UTC*
458 upvotes, 9 direct replies
Minor correction: this is r/AskMenAdvice not r/AskMen. I'm pretty sure it's unmoderated or something, because i kept getting suggested to me and it's just 100% misogynistic ranting. It's constant "Woe is me, men are the most oppressed people in all the land! Women want for nothing now, and society is 100% against good things *ever* happening to a man!"
There have been a few threads popping up that are like "Why do women comment on this sub pretending to be men?" and when asked "Why do you think the posters are secretly women?" they can not answer other than occasionally going something like "There are things that women can never mimic." and it becomes evident pretty quickly that they think "anyone who disagrees with me must be a woman." And I think that when they complain "This sub is being swarmed by women!" they just mean "This sub is getting more traffic from everyone, but I assume anyone not jerking off about how women are evil must be a woman themselves." Yes, there are women commenting (you can see the "woman" flair) but I doubt there are as many as these guys think.
edit: It's happening in the thread
No i havent, but how do you declare if an opinion is downvoted by "woman which dont agree" instead of a man, which simply isnt agreeing?
Theres certain post topics theyre drawn to
Give us some example, because right now, honestly, you simply sounds like being butthurt the majority isnt your opinion. And you try to convince yourself its the womens fault.
🤷‍♂️
Comment by guiltyofnothing at 27/01/2025 at 22:00 UTC
442 upvotes, 4 direct replies
Men aren’t allowed to have places free from women.
Something that hasn’t been true for all of human history.
Comment by Realistic_Depth5450 at 27/01/2025 at 21:46 UTC
402 upvotes, 16 direct replies
This stupid sub (Ask Men) comes up for me sometimes and it seems to be full of men asking other men questions that they should be asking women.
Fellas, how can I make my wife attracted to me again?
Fellas, what do women mean when they say they want me to improve myself?
Fellas, why do women think I don't listen to them when I literally don't listen to them and instead come ask yall about them?
Comment by yumelina at 27/01/2025 at 22:11 UTC*
107 upvotes, 5 direct replies
I don't comment on that sub because I'd rather avoid being brigaded by incels, but the sub pops up on my feed now and then and the questions are almost always some "why do women do x" question and the top comments are sometimes reasonable and sometimes "because they're bitches who think we should read their minds and who will call you a loser if you cry in front of them." and it's like woahhh there what? This is upvoted... and very angry... and not my experience as a woman at all.
While i personally would never put myself through the headache of pointing out when a man in his feelings is wrong, I can see how someone would see the blatantly wrong interpretations of women's behaviour and feel the need to go "now wait that's not why this usually happens". I've thought that so many times but I know what will happen if i try to correct them when they're in their zone lmao.
I'm sure the reverse happens in women's subs too but for anyone wondering why they're so heavily moderated compared to the men's subs, it's because the men don't get rape threats in their dms for debating with women in comment sections. Unfortunately lads, some of your brethren ruined it for the rest of you by being absolute sickos that made it so bad, women spaces needed to be moderated to avoid it, and sometimes it still doesn't help.
You can frankly either deal with it or make your own heavily modded subreddit. Or ig you could just keep bitching about women and acting like twoX is the pinnacle of sexism and division, then in the same breath make 3 posts per second generalising women, without a hint of irony or self awareness.
Comment by AkuTheNiceGuy at 27/01/2025 at 22:38 UTC
82 upvotes, 0 direct replies
There's literally no way to tell if someone disliking a comment is a man or a woman.
And this not being the top comment is why men get called stupid
Comment by Commercial_Place9807 at 27/01/2025 at 22:01 UTC
96 upvotes, 2 direct replies
That sub is just an incel sub now. The whinging in it is also just nauseating. Just over the top non stop whinging and hate.
Also maybe women keep answering questions there because they keep asking questions only women can answer?
Just looked at the thread, in the very top, man hoping women get slaughtered by drones in war.
Comment by ExpressAd2182 at 27/01/2025 at 22:01 UTC*
94 upvotes, 4 direct replies
That sub needs to be renamed insecureboys. Just a constant stream of "DAE think no one talks about men problems????" followed by thousands of other lonely guys all assuring each other that "no one talks about it" while they all talk about it. And I'm pretty sure 99% of the comments like this:
Or male loneliness. I've personally had multiple arguments with women who actively try and push the idea that men are not necessary or needed/wanted anymore.
Are just some dude deliberately misinterpreting an interaction in the worst way possible to feed his victim complex. Like taking "white privilege" to mean "white people are intrinsically bad". My fuck all that sub does is wallow.
Comment by No-Communication9458 at 27/01/2025 at 22:17 UTC
39 upvotes, 0 direct replies
"woman user flairs" + "shit opinions"
That's an incel
Comment by Mr_sex_haver at 28/01/2025 at 00:45 UTC*
17 upvotes, 1 direct replies
I've seen a few posts from those subreddits and a lot of the time it just seems to be dudes wanting to dig their holes deeper or just wanting reassurance of how they already are instead of like self reflecting and trying to be better.
There is absolutely a lacking of positive male role models for young men IMO and it is sad to see how many dudes fall into these behaviours or construct completely unfounded/unrealistic views of how the world and how people act. Subreddits like that are sadly breeding grounds for MRA/Incels to put shit into peoples minds unless they are properly moderated. Those ideas and mindsets don't help anyone, they are a toxic to both their hosts and those around them. The only people who benefit are people peddling courses and other bs for profit to people already sucked into those mindsets.
My best advice for young men would be learn to admit when you are wrong, assess why something makes you mad and if you really should even care, internalise that everyone regardless of identity or background is an individual shitty people and good people from all groups exist and painting with broad strokes just makes a mess. Try your best to be better every day even if it's something as simple as working out a little, trying to cook something new, saying hi or good morning to someone you pass on a walk plenty of little ways to improve yourself skills and socially wise but it does take effort and it's okay to not be perfect what matters is trying your best to be better and being able to recognise that you aren't perfect and that we all have issues. Accept that sometimes you don't get what you want and thats okay, thats life you have to move on respectfully. Most of all treat everyone with kindness until they give you real reasons not to.
Comment by Self-Comprehensive at 27/01/2025 at 22:40 UTC
22 upvotes, 0 direct replies
I was once swarmed by women. Best night of my life.
Comment by averagesophonenjoyer at 29/01/2025 at 00:05 UTC
4 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Men aren't allowed to have places free from women.
All of my hobby spaces like the local RC plane club and wargaming club are EXTREMELY free of women. I think we are achieving negative women.
Comment by lavender-pears at 28/01/2025 at 04:03 UTC
22 upvotes, 2 direct replies
They just feel entitled to men’s sexuality, commitment, time and bodies.
Men have to date who they want, only enjoy sex how they want, only have the hobbies they want, etc.
There has to be some rule of the internet akin to Sarkeesian's Rule that dictates how the longer a thread goes where men debate gender theory, the more likely it is that they'll make an argument that applies to men in theory, but actually applies to women in reality. Women are much more socially expected to learn and mesh with their straight partner's stereotypical masc hobbies than men ever are expected to learn anything about, or participate in, femme hobbies. Women are pressured into sex they aren't comfortable with *all of the time*.
Comment by Chikitiki90 at 27/01/2025 at 23:23 UTC
12 upvotes, 0 direct replies
God, this sub has been pushed so hard in my feed. Looks like it’s next up for the mgtow/kotakuinaction treatment.
Comment by Donkey_Option at 27/01/2025 at 21:56 UTC
27 upvotes, 3 direct replies
Since the sub is called asked men, it does seem silly to argue that women should be banned from asking men. But I really like the idea of filtering by woman-related flairs. How would that work? Are they user-generated flairs where a woman would have to choose it? Are they mod assigned so someone would have to be identified as a woman by a mod to flair them? I assume my flair here would be considered a woman flair, though that's mostly coincidence because while a woman, I am not bald or a lesbian. But what would be a woman flair? "Proud to bleed monthly" or "Breasts boobily"? Just genius-level ideas, these gentlemen.
Comment by chardongay at 28/01/2025 at 01:46 UTC
18 upvotes, 2 direct replies
simple solution: if they want to stop getting women involved, they need to stop posting about women. it's stupid to always ask "why do women x, y, z?" and then only expect men to answer.
Comment by Courwes at 28/01/2025 at 02:03 UTC
12 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Controversial
but women should not be parent comments on posts in that sub. It’s called askmen for a reason. let the men answer and women can reply to their answers if they feel the need to comment. Women *should* be able to ask questions but I have to admit, as a woman, I get irritated seeing women answering questions posed to men too. Men are being asked for a reason, I don’t care what women think about the facial hair of men. I’d go to askwomen if I wanted to know that.
Comment by dethb0y at 27/01/2025 at 22:21 UTC
13 upvotes, 1 direct replies
I don't know why they don't have a rule about who can answer questions. It just seems like common sense that /askmen would be for...men to answer questions in.
Comment by Zimmonda at 27/01/2025 at 22:00 UTC
18 upvotes, 0 direct replies
If I remember correctly we just call the "Straight Male" space the world.
Jokes aside it is a bummer any attempt at this stuff goes down the shitter but it is what it is.
Comment by boolocap at 27/01/2025 at 22:14 UTC
17 upvotes, 0 direct replies
My fellow dudes really need to touch some grass, this is just straight up unhealthy.
Also i feel like a large quantity of the questions on there are either from teens who really should be asking them to their parents, or any role model really. Or from men in a midlife crisis who just need some other guys to hang out with.
Comment by Dictionary_Goat at 27/01/2025 at 23:18 UTC
6 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Nothing will prepare you for which of these comments are highly upvoted or downvoted
Comment by AlanMooresWzrdBeerd at 27/01/2025 at 22:38 UTC
16 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Ooo-whee these posts always attract the MRA shitheads who have been infesting SRD since pre-election so I can't wait to see the SRDD. I actually don't look forward to it but it's inevitable and SRD has no interest in modding these weirdos when they start the male aggrievement talking points.
Comment by RustedAxe88 at 27/01/2025 at 23:00 UTC
7 upvotes, 1 direct replies
The classic, "You're a white knight" argument.
These guys tried that shit and it failed, which obviously means none of us men actually respect women.
Comment by Magnificentderp1 at 27/01/2025 at 23:16 UTC
6 upvotes, 1 direct replies
I will say in my experiance I sometimes have seen a post on other male-centric subreddits that I relate to and seen pushback from women and it sucks I don't expect them to empathize if it dosent apply to you but just move on then. On the other hand male-centric spaces are of course rife with misogyny and toxic masculinity also makes me feel like shit. it'd be nice to have a place where I feel understood but also not bashing on the outgroup.
Comment by InevitableAvalanche at 28/01/2025 at 00:12 UTC
10 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Saying this as a dude. These guys are why they are unsuccessful with women. They spend all day hating on women that it will clearly come out on any date they manage to go on.