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May I ask you for a summary of what your personal experience has been like in engaging other people who are autistic? Have you personally experienced autism in others as a wide range? Have you been able to identify people who might pass for neurotypical but you spotted autistic tells?
I’m asking because I’ve made my gf the promise that as soon as I get a healthcare plan that covers evaluation, I’m getting tested for autism. And I’d like to know what your experience has been, and what your perspective is.
Comment by justathrwowaway at 02/12/2024 at 19:06 UTC
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Hey, I'm not the one you were asking but thought it may be helpful to chime in, then you can have multiple people answer woth different perspectives.
I'm autistic, as are several friends and family members. Some people I know will never be able to live independently, and will never be able to be left home alone without the possibility of them getting hurt. Some people I know have advanced degrees and have shown an ability to maintain independence. I am married, working, and in school.
Ive found that most people who don't have experience with autism can't clock me, but most low support needs autistic adults are able to clock me. Either that, or autistic people could just be more likely to tell me they clocked me lol.
I can take things too litterally, I tend to stim, and I'm socially awkward. The rest of the side effects from the autism are more personal battles that aren't immidately visible, but those are the things that people clock when they do realize I'm autistic.
Comment by [deleted] at 02/12/2024 at 19:08 UTC
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I mostly prefer to socialize with other autistic people, both in platonic and romantic contexts. I tend to get along great with people who are open about their autistic traits. However I sometimes get into conflicts with autistics who are more masking or wanting to be "normal".