Comment by GrandPipe4 on 27/01/2025 at 02:45 UTC

15 upvotes, 4 direct replies (showing 4)

View submission: 37F dating after separation, partner with low libido again....

I'm really interested in the replies here because I've had a different but still similar experience. I'm 44F and have been divorced for almost 15 years. Nearly every man I've dated has had erection issues. Not once or twice, or 10% of the time, but 75-100% of the time. If only there were an elegant way to prescreen men for my concern, or yours, without starting the communications off on the wrong foot i.e. making the guy think it's ok to talk sex and nothing but sex, and never form an actual connection.

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Comment by citysunsecret at 27/01/2025 at 06:26 UTC

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You are not alone in noticing this trend! Porn exposure young, masturbation habits, fitness levels, and having less sex younger are all theory’s I’ve seen. It’s definitely common, and it’s definitely not you, but it definitely can be really hard to deal with.

Comment by gooseandjuice at 27/01/2025 at 02:56 UTC

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I also want to be mindful and acknowledge that my proclivities don't have to always be met by my partner but it would be nice to be somewhat similar so I'm not feeling ..this way again. My stbx and I hadnt touched each other for years (my youngest is 3 in two weeks). I don't want to be that way again. My current partner has consistently said he gets off to getting me off which has been nice (my stbx was not that way.) but idk. I feel like it's almost been less than a year, we should be all over each other, no?

Comment by stuckinnowhereville at 27/01/2025 at 11:27 UTC

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After a guy told me he can only get off if he’s submissive…in our first conversation. He was looking for a dominatrix. We met on Bumble 🤣. My pictures scream suburban soccer mom with a Costco card-I think you can flat out ask anything.

“Hi! Do you use a c-pap and have errection issues?”

Comment by _Cum_and_get_it_ at 27/01/2025 at 16:43 UTC

3 upvotes, 2 direct replies

And this is why, since my divorce last year, 100% of the guys I’ve slept with are younger than me. Some significantly so, and I have zero regrets.

After years of a db in my last relationship, it is refreshing af to be wanted sexually and to have that desire be apparent in a tangible way (with a rock hard 🐓, in case that was too subtle).