4 upvotes, 1 direct replies (showing 1)
Okay, I say this as someone who envisions a free use relationship when I find the right person. I also heavily prioritize my partners happiness…having said that, she needs serious therapy and you’re doing more harm than good by becoming her new abuser. If you love her, stop enabling this behavior and push her to therapy. Keep telling her that you’re not comfortable with this and this is not the dynamic you want in your relationship.
If things end between you two and she finds a new genuinely abusive person, then that an unfortunate reality that she’ll have to face. But you’re not her guardian and you can’t lose out on your life for her.
Comment by Midas_Ag at 14/01/2025 at 04:18 UTC
1 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Thank you, I am digesting it. That last part is something I had to learn with my exwife that even if I could see someone wasn’t right for her, for many reasons, and she would tell me she had doubts, it wasn’t my place to interfere.
I’ve asked her several times to start therapy. I don’t know why she doesn’t. I don’t disagree with the rest of it.