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Thank you. Also, that last part is not something that occurred to me. Legally speaking. I also know that I don't think she realizes she is forcing me into this "aggressor" position. The previous weekend, when she was telling me that she wants to me stop asking, she wished I woudl just do, to take what I want from her, and she got defensive when I pushed back on it. Later that day I texted her that I am not always comfortable with just "taking what I want". That some level of active consent is something I want or need or expect and that going into those overly aggressive mindsets is something that is not comfortable for me. Yes, being the dominant one in the bedroom fits me, but not to the level she is expecting. Of just taking or doing, no matter what. And her response was that she hadn't thought of that. That she guesses she just compartmentalizes it. That kind of struck me strangely. Like, is this just what you expect of people ???
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