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When I was younger, I used to set a standing once a month, a week-night dinner with my grandparents.
Generally, I found the schedule helps so that you can all avoid the invite & awkward accept/decline cycle. They'll appreciate the regularity of the schedule as well.
Weeknight dinner is important as you won't be expected to get there too early, and you have a hard out. After all, you have to get up early and work/school tomorrow 😉
Obviously YMMV and you'll have to adapt to your schedule. I personally ended up having a great time after the first 1-2 awkwardish times. These days, I wish I could have a dinner with them.
Comment by screeline at 29/11/2024 at 01:48 UTC
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Man, I totally agree on the scheduling something regular. It really helps anchor them.
Comment by NoApollonia at 29/11/2024 at 14:10 UTC
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I'd add in maybe a weekly phone call if I was in OOP's shoes. Set aside one hour say on Sunday to call and chat. It gives them something to look forward to if they are feeling lonely. While it might sometimes feel like a chore, it's something you'll wish you could do when they are gone.